Slowin’ My Roll

September 18, 2015

“Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well-preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming “Wow! What a Ride!”
This is how I feel on a regular basis. This, however, is NOT how my hubby feels. He is pretty much the exact opposite of me. And this makes me crazy sometimes. I feel like he is not on my team. I feel like he doesn’t understand me. I feel like I am being held back. What I am not seeing is the whole picture.
When I started on this journey, he asked me if I was scared. I said, “yep, doesn’t it make you feel so alive”. He replied, “no, it makes me feel terrified”. Right there, plain as day, was how completely different we were. Here I was so excited and ready to take on the world and all he could think about was logic. BOOOOORRRRing. With a goofy grin all over my face I asked, “What about how amazing it is going to be to be doing what I love, what about how many people I am going to help, what about not working for someone else,” and he butts in, “what about how much it will cost, what about the risk”. Blink, blink, say whaaa? Talk about a Debbie downer. Bleh. Who wanted to hear that? Not me.
The thing is, it takes all types to make the world go around. And I needed to hear that. I need people with logic and a sense of stability to slow my roll a bit. In fact, the two closest people to me are the logical type. This is not a coincidence. Us endless dreamers need someone to put the brakes on to make sure we are not flying off the rails. And the logical worriers need us crazy trains to add some zest to their lives. It doesn’t mean that I can’t dream big and chase those dreams. That is what I do, that’s who I am. And it doesn’t mean that we aren’t meant for one another. In fact, it is quite the opposite. He is the yin to my yang. The brakes to my gas. The logic to my crazy. The other half to my whole.
Sometimes we find ourselves surrounded by what we need. What we don’t possess. It is in these moments of truth that we decide who we open ourselves up to. Sometimes I back away from people who are not like me. Or gravitate towards those that are. I am learning that I can’t discount someone because they are not like me. In fact, I need to celebrate what they can bring to my table. What they can contribute to my journey. I choose to be thankful for these people who make me think before I leap. I choose to add them to my tool box as ways to ensure success. I also choose to grab their hand and take them along on this wild ride that I call my life. After all, I can’t be the only one skidding in sideways, used up and worn out!!


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Personal trainer, fitness coach, group fitness instructor, triathlete, mother, wife, and all around awesome chick!

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